A few days into the “write31days” challenge, somebody commented on one of my posts: “It is almost like living with Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hyde as you are never sure what they can help and what they can’t.” This was not a new analogy for me! I often found myself comparing our situation to that of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!! Somehow, with her comment, I really felt this person had connected and knew exactly what I was going through!!
But,
why use that particular analogy?
Well, first we must look at the story of Jekyll and Hyde. According to SparksNotes 1, “Until
the end of the novel, the two personas seem nothing alike; and it does appear
as if there are TWO persons – one, ‘a well-liked, respectable Dr. Jekyll’; and
two, ‘a hideous, depraved Mr. Hyde – totally opposite in type and personality.’ The author, Stevenson, uses this contrast to
make a point: ‘every human being contains opposite forces within him or her, an
alter ego that hides behind one’s polite façade.’ ”
Hmmm! That is interesting…so, when I compare my
husband’s dementia to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, I am actually admitting to his
“dual personality” – because on the surface he is a likeable, respectable
person; yet, lurking inside is that other person that – while maybe not
necessarily “hideous or depraved”, is certainly an opposite to the other
person.
In the novel, Dr.
Jekyll asserts that “man is not truly one, but truly two,” and he imagines the
human soul as the battleground for an “angel” and a “fiend”, each struggling
for mastery. But his potion, which he
hoped would separate and purify each element, succeeds only in bringing the
dark side into being – Mr. Hyde emerges, but he has no angelic
counterpart. Once unleashed, Mr. Hyde
slowly takes over, until Dr. Jekyll ceases to exist. If man is half “angel” and half “fiend”, one
wonders what happens to the “angel” at the end of the novel, or in our case,
the journey.
And, it leaves ME to wonder what happens to my husband as we continue on
this journey with Dementia’s Demands; what will his struggles lead to
uncovering in his personality or the disease?
I can only wonder and leave what will be in the hands of our Lord!
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1 SparkNotes Editors. “SparkNote on Dr. Jekyll
and Mr. Hyde.” SparkNotes LLC. 2003. To access SparkNotes, click here.
Thanks for sharing! I will pray for you!
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading and commenting! Prayers are always welcome!
DeleteI'm hoping the angel takes over! And recently, I have seen my mom become less agitated and angry. I think as the disease progresses they forget to be angry, or if they become angry, the are on such a short memory loop that they forget why they are angry. My mom still has days she is more agitated than usual and even will have an angry outburst, but they are not as severe or as often as they had been. This is a relief on the one hand because it is easier for us, especially for my dad, but on the other hand, it makes me sad because it feels like she has progressed and is not fighting the Alzheimer's like she was. I know that it does progress and we can't really fight it, but the anger always let me know she was lashing out at what was happening, even though it was hard to take. Thankfully, the essence of her personality is still intact and I pray that it always will be.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading and for commenting! I too hope the angel is who takes over!! I appreciate your following my blog, and also sharing pieces of your journey with your mom. I pray as you continue on your journey, you have the peace and comfort needed to be the person your mom needs in HER journey! Appreciate your being my "following friend" on this 31 day series!
DeleteI'm also praying with you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading, following and prayers! Prayers are ALWAYS good!
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